Scattered things, a diary forgotten at home, lost shift … Many children,
to a big annoyance of parents, behave completely in order. Psychotherapist and specialist in children’s development Victoria Ponday gives simple and useful recommendations on how to teach a child to independence.
Over the years of work, the psychotherapist Victoria Ponday met many customers and heard almost about all the problems related to their behavior and development. One of the most common reasons for the parents is the inorganization of their children.
“When parents with children come to my office, I often hear“ Take off a jacket, hang a jacket, take off your shoes, go to the toilet, wash your hands ”, and a few minutes later the same parents complain to me that their son or daughter constantly forget the houses of lunchbox, a diary or notebook, constantly lose books, hats and bottles of water, forget to complete homework, ”she shares. Her main recommendation, invariably surprising parents, is to stop. Stop working as a GPS for your child. Why?
The reminders of the elders really fulfill the function of the external navigation system for children, leading them every day of life. Working with such GPS, parents take on the responsibility of the child and do not allow him to develop organizational skills. Reminders literally “turn off” his brain, and without them the child is no longer ready to remember something and do on his own initiative, he has no motivation.
Parents will concern the child’s innate weakness, providing the offspring with a continuous stream of instructions
